Sexiness is not how tiny your waist looks or how beautiful you are. If anything, they are far from it. Sexiness has more to do with aura than body shape or looks. You don’t have to look a certain way or have a certain body type. You have to be sexy in your own way. This means accepting yourself just the way you are and never comparing yourself to anyone else.
To all the girls that think you’re fat because you’re not a size zero, you’re the beautiful one, it’s society who’s ugly — Marilyn Monroe.
It's important to feel sexy because we unfortunately live in a society where far too many people don’t love themselves and are not proud of who they are. The media presents us with impossible standards of what is beautiful and what is sexy – and we live in a culture that could benefit from more promotion of positive body image.
The media promotes extreme dieting to be as thin as possible and it frowns upon aging, and while fortunately there is a movement that encourages positive body image and self-acceptance, there are still so many women that will try anything to get rid of a few wrinkles or a few pounds.
My goal for this article is to give you the tools for learning how to become the best version of yourself and feeling confident and sexy as a result. I’m not going to tell you to act like someone else just to attract someone. The practical steps that I will discuss will help you to be sexy by being you.
There are multiple reasons for this. First of all, you don’t need to be someone else to get attention from a person. If you learn how to showcase your best qualities and be confident in your allure, you’ll attract men like moths to a flame. Secondly, if you’re looking to seduce someone in particular, acting like someone else just to get them is not going to get you anywhere. So keep reading to know the practical ways to be sexy as you and not change into someone else ;
1. Accept your imperfections
This is one of THE most important things to do! You have to learn to love yourself and be your own ally when you’re working on being sexier. Where is the fun in being perfect? Believe it or not, your imperfections make you unique. It sets you apart from everyone else. Love every flaw you have so it can never be used against you. I suggest spending at least 20 minutes in front of the mirror daily saying positive affirmations. I highly recommend this.
Stand in front of a mirror, silence your mind, take a deep breath and say
I am enough .I love my body with confidence daily.I love my face and all my features.
I love myself exactly as I am. I no longer want to be perfect in order to love myself.
If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. If you can’t change it, accept it. Do you feel a certain way because it personally bothers you or because it bothers people around you? Embrace your imperfections, learn to love them. The secret behind loving your imperfections is to understand that only you matters. Your imperfections don’t make you any less worthy. Trying to fit into the norms of the society is something you should never do because it limits you.
2. Dress to fit your shape
Whether you have your eye on a special someone or not, there are certain ways to dress that are certain to catch a person’s attention.
You don’t have to be scantily clad if you want to be considered sexy. Being sexy also does not mean you should wear less clothing. Showing tons of skin doesn’t translate to sexy. People don’t have bad bodies, they just have ill fitted clothes. You need to find clothes that go with your body type. Please avoid wearing boxy or baggy clothes. You need a dress that will hug every curve in your body, if you have an hour glass shape.
Choose one thing that you love about your body and accentuate it. For example, if you have great legs, wear fitted pants or a shorter dress or skirt, and leave the rest covered. If you’re wearing a shorter skirt, you don’t have to wear a low cut top as well.
You can embellish with sexy jewelry that subtly draws the eye to your skin.Red is a powerful color when it comes to clothing. It is associated with passion and fire, and if you feel comfortable wearing it, go for it! When choosing heels, go for the ones that you are comfortable with not the ones that give you blisters.
3. Have a good personality ;
You need to work on your personality so whenever you speak.
There is sexiness in humour. Nobody wants to hang out with a snobby person, someone that is proud and someone that is too serious.
Loosen up more. Smile, be kind, be funny, and let love pass through you. Smiling is extremely powerful. People like to be around charismatic people…the ones that lighten up their days and not drag them down. Work on yourself, be nice to everyone you meet. Being kind hearted is extremely attractive. There are a lot of bad people in this world and we need more good people to balance it out.
4. Take care of yourself
An attractive woman is someone who takes care of herself. She is healthy and she observes a healthy routine and lifestyle. She goes to exercise during her free time. She gets her hair and nails treated every once in a while. She brushes her teeth regularly. She is neat and she smells fresh and clean. She gets enough sleep and takes care of her skin regularly. An attractive woman is hygienic but not afraid to be dirty. If you are fit, you feel good about yourself and it radiates from inside of you. Being fit is sexy. Sexy is confidence and confidence is very attractive. I also suggest you invest time in yourself. Grooming is essential. Clean up nicely and always smell great. Take good care of skin, hair, smell but most importantly, take good care of your mind.
5. Read and be acquainted .
Feed your mind by reading books full of knowledge. You can’t only look beautiful, your mind has to be beautiful as well. You have to be smart and by smart, I don’t mean book smart but that can also be a bonus. Challenge yourself everyday, try doing new things (mostly things out of your comfort zone). Smart women are extremely sexy. The more you know, the sexier you become. You have a brain for a reason, use it.
6. Learn to smile!
An attractive woman is someone who always smiles and who has a positive outlook in life. A woman is most beautiful when she smiles. It is enough to melt a man’s heart. If a woman is nice and approachable she becomes attractive in everyone’s eyes. On the other hand, no matter how beautiful a woman is, if she is rude and difficult to approach she becomes unattractive. It is then important to smile and be nice to everyone. Don’t be too nice as to allow other people to walk all over you, though. Learn to defend yourself when the time calls for it. Do not make fun of anyone. Do not bully someone and don’t be rude. If there’s something you disagree to or if there’s something you are not happy about, learn to express it in a cool and friendly manner. People will definitely be attracted by your cool and nice attitude in no time. Do not fake your smile as well. That’s rude and often it looks sarcastic.
7. Speak and walk slowly
You know how sometimes we catch ourselves talking so fast? Well the faster you talk,the harder it is to keep up with you. People who talk very fast never actually listen. They are always listening to reply and not to understand. Talking slowly means you are paying attention before effectively passing your message across. Speaking slowly makes you sound fifty times more eloquent and charming. It makes you sound smart, more mature and confident.
You have got to own your walk. Don’t rush, take your time.
8. Learn to express yourself
An attractive woman knows how and when to express herself. She is smart enough to choose her words carefully but brave enough to say it sincerely. She is intelligent but not intimidating. She has a cool sense of humor that makes everyone laugh. She shares good jokes but never makes fun of anyone. She can talk about many things. She knows a lot about things and she is not a boring companion. Being attractive means being able to express what you feel and saying what you want to say when you want to say it. Be confident! If you feel like you need to say something just say it. People will listen to you. Do not let your brilliant ideas be left unsaid. People deserve to know them...
9. Be spontaneous
People can only appreciate your beauty if you go out and enjoy the sun. If you keep on hiding, people will not notice you. Go out and smell the flowers. Smile and enjoy your life. Happiness is contagious. It makes a woman more beautiful and attractive. Go and hang-out with your friends. Eat something you have never tasted before. Be spontaneous! Men like it very much when a girl is unpredictable. They like to keep on guessing and getting surprised at what she does next and they fall in love with her even more. If you like to stay indoors that is fine as long as you keep yourself active. Play fun board games with your friends like scrabble or monopoly. Organize a small party or do a movie marathon!
10. Take action and never give up
Go through your closet and get rid of anything you don’t feel good about, check out style blogs or work with a stylist, and go shopping with friends. This way, you’ll feel confident about your purchases if you were feeling unsure. One of the best ways to feel sexy is to feel good about how you’re presenting yourself. A woman who keeps on going despite every challenge in life is certainly beautiful and attractive. She pursues her dreams and achieves her goals. She is an achiever and she is successful and confident. When a woman doesn't back down on a challenge, and when she accomplishes what she set for herself men will start to look up to her and admire her.
Make efforts towards these tips and you will find yourself to be more sexy and attractive.
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Great article. Learnt a lot from it.
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